"My PH made me three promises: 1. To get everything we owned  2. To get full custody of our children and 3. To get my mind. He's succeeded in getting the first two with his masterfully-constructed facade."

"He promised the adults present he would do what was asked of him: (1) drop all frivilous motions filed in court, including the divorce appeal (2) be financially responsible for them. He agreed. However, he has done NONE of those things. He has filed more motions against me than I can count at this time, 6 more today. Not true of course, but I have to defend myself. He is never, ever going to stop. Never.
My attorney says that I am sunk."

 "I have consistently argued that the N knew exactly what he was doing and chose his actions carefully. 
His history may have made him disordered.  His choices make him evil." 

"Thousands were spent through the years and luckily my lawyer stayed with me through the end. Even in high school a teacher changed my son's grade on his report card from a D to a B because of him being afraid of his father finding out. Then when his father showed up not believing the report card the principal covered for him after speaking with the teacher. They told me that his father caused quite a disruption in their office and they could not have that. My reaction was I have been trying to prevent this since he was 3 why don't you write a letter to the courts and let them know that 13 years later I am still dealing with the same issues. I had psychiatrists, counselors, therapists and my lawyer asking for only supervised visitation and sometimes being able to halt it depending on what took place that caused more problems in my son's mental stability. For everything he did I had to undo. Everytime in court his father would cry that he loved his son but he could never at any time see the damage he was causing. (The only thing that finally stopped it was his father threatened to beat him to a pulp and my son told me about it after spending a weekend there. He was 16 and said he told his father if you touch me I will call 911 and they will lock you away. The sad part is my son loves his father because he is his father and they are what you call buddies but I think for that instant his father realized that his son like me would not tolerate it. That  the thing that I had taught him through the years from the time he was little was if your father ever tries to hit you dial 911.)  It was very difficult and scary so many times, could I keep him safe? not be abused by his father? and not turn out abusive like his father? I am praying that I was able to help him enough that he is confident and secure in who he is and that I was able to offset the damage enough that he will be ok."

"He used to love to watch those hunting shows on TV. The shows where they show tapes of actually hunting kills. He would insist that our daughter would watch them with him because he knew it freaked her out. Also, he had a 3 hour visitation with d, again when she was 4. He insisted on moving the time of the visit around because he had some "special plans." The special plans? He took her to see a deer being "processed."

"I have had restraining orders, civil and criminal ongoing for over two years. He told me he would kill me but that would be too good for me, first he wants to watch me lose everything and become homeless, then he will kill me. I don't believe he will ever stop until he does kill me."

"My children had watched him beat me on more than one occasion (when they were not locked out of the area where the beating was taking place) and if they cried, this man would tell them to "shut up, or they would get the same thing." None of this was taken into consideration when the judge made his decision. He would not even look at the pictures his own system had taken."

"I have been divorced from my ex for over 8 years now. I think the last 8 years have been worse than the 7 I was married to him."

"I would like to add something. I don't know exactly how you would word this, but still today, I have no idea what he is capable of doing legally to try and get me into trouble. I just got papers in the mail on Friday from the district attorney where he attempted to file a FEDERAL law suit against me, the judge and the district attorney that handled the protective order for me. The federal court threw it out, but I guess I would like people not to underestimate what their devious minds can think up to retaliate with. He sits in the jail listening to all the jail house lawyers giving him ideas, and he has 24 hours a day to come up with still more to file. He continues to lose every single time, but it seems to keep moving up to a larger scale. This time he went to federal court."

"Never back a N in a corner; avoid causing a Narcissistic Injury unless you are willing to engage in their retaliatory rage...A Narcissist operates on a level of fear most of us cannot even understand."

"My older children are safe now, but my youngest experienced some abuse this summer and doesn't want to have anything to do with him again. This isn't the first time he been abusive of course but he was much more obvious and blatant about it and she was less trusting because of previous incidences.  Now I have to go back to court to try to eliminate visitation or get the judge to allow her to make the decision herself.  This will be about the 6th court action I've been through with him in the past 5 years and there were about as many or more in the previous 6 years."